Thursday, 26 April 2012

Absolute Specialists - heartful practice course







The accreditation programme  for Absolute Specialists April 12



The accreditation programme for Absolute Specialists offers training in mindfulness techniques and heartful practice. Accredited practitioners will:

  • Have a deep, experiential  understanding of heartful practice
  • Use the practice appropriately to support clients in their own journey of self-awareness
  • Be confident in using the techniques in a creative and responsive way
  • Work according to Absolute’s ethos and ethics
  • Continue to develop their own heartful practice and offer their best to their clients

The programme consists of the following:

  1. 10 half-day workshops
  2. 8 two hour discussion sessions 
  3. 10 one to one supervision sessions
  4. 6 peer group supervision sessions
  5. Telephone support
  6. Bi-monthly networking with Absolute Specialists and others interested in heartful practice
  7. A reward system for introducing clients and practitioners to Absolute
  8. An Absolute manual with scripts of the techniques
  9. Accreditation as an Absolute specialist
  10. Presence on the website, use of the Absolute brand, opportunity to collaborate with other Absolute Specialists



1.The workshops -  4 hour sessions introducing:

Healing Meditation

This guided meditation will help you to connect with your body and acknowledge any emotional or physical pain that is present. You will be guided to bring to mind the time that you first felt this pain and may identify its original cause. You can then go through a campfire and heart to heart process and begin to heal the pain.

You will benefit if you have an illness or are in physical pain, if there is a trauma in your past that you feel is unresolved or if you are a practitioner interested in learning more about this powerful healing tool.

You do not need to have had any experience of mindfulness or spiritual work to benefit from this meditation, it is a gentle introduction to The Journey and to the work of Absolute Specialists. You will be paired with an experienced practitioner who will support you as you embark on this healing journey.

The Enquiry

This is an opportunity to practice active listening and exploration with a client to help them become aware of a deeper, and often unconscious issue that is influencing their current dis-ease. This workshop introduces supervision in practice, person-centred supervision, triads, peer supervision and  mentor-led supervision as ways to deepen your own heartful practice. You will work in triads and experience the role of client, practitioner and observer in this supportive and insightful workshop.

The Pain Release Technique

The Pain Release Technique is a simple mindfulness meditation. It brings profound and immediate results in clients suffering chronic physical pain such as fibromyalgia, arthritis and wounds as well as emotional pain such as acute anxiety, grief, anger and depression.

It takes only a few minutes and can be used during the consultation to:

bring immediate relief from mental anguish or physical pain

ground the client so that the pain can be viewed more objectively

open the client to a deeper awareness and understanding of their pain

It can be taught to the client who can then use it when they need it. Feedback is very positive with most clients enjoying better sleep, less pain and a more positive mood and less reliance on pain killers, sleeping pills and other medication.

By the end of the workshop you will be:

confident in using the technique

aware of the depth of the process

clear about the benefits of using the technique in your own practice



Questioning judgements

Often our clients are stuck because they have fixed judgements and beliefs that they accept without question. This wonderfully simple technique allows them to see how unhelpful these fixed thoughts can be and how much freer they would be if they dropped them.

The workshop is based on 'The Work' developed by Byron Katie: www.thework.com. In it you will have an opportunity to experience and gain confidence in the technique and explore how you can integrate it in to your practice.

Of all the techniques I have learned in recent years this is the one that has transformed my practice the most dramatically. You can use it with people who are very 'in their heads' and cannot connect with their heart, you can use it with people who are highly intellectual and unwilling to do 'spiritual stuff' and with those who are still stuck 'in their story' despite years and years of therapy. The results are profound and after realising that they have a choice about whether they follow the dictates of their minds or not your clients will have made a permanent and irreversible shift and will be more open to other modes of healing.

The Wounded Child

The Wounded Child process is a gentle meditation that allows your client to recognise the part of them that is in need of support and then to give it that support. When a part of us is in pain we close off and our minds become separated from our hearts and our deeper wisdom. This process allows the mind to open and access the loving support that the heart offers, we can then be more trusting, free and loving.

Sounds simple, and it is, but the results are profound.

In this workshop you will see a live demonstration of the technique and then get to give and receive a process. Afterwards there will be an opportunity to explore how you can use it in practice to give added support to your clients.





 Know Your Own Mind

Do you know your deepest fear? What unconscious belief drives you? What this costs you?

Find your ego's nemesis and explore it, challenge it and let it go.

In this workshop we will identify the four basic fears of the ego and you will get to recognise which is yours at the moment. We will then explore the many subtle ways that this fear has affected your life's path and how it has separated you from love, truth and happiness.

Then, having exposed it you can be guided through a process that will allow you to surrender to it, experience freedom from it and gain access to your own inner wisdom.

We will be working in triads and using the Pain Release Technique, so you will need to attend a PRT workshop before attending this one.



The Heart to Heart

The heart to heart is a guided meditation. It has profound healing potential.

The heart to heart gives clients an opportunity to say what they really needed to say in a painful situation but couldn't at the time. It is a wonderfully healing process for someone who is grieving, feels disempowered or abused. It allows them to express themselves and let go of harboured feelings. Once the pain is released the client’s heart will open and they will feel freer and able to gain a more objective and loving understanding of events. As with all the other processes in the heartful practice series it is gently but profoundly healing and offers an opportunity to resolve and move on from painful events.



The Memory Reframe

The Memory retake is a guided meditation. It has profound healing potential. When we are faced with a situation that overwhelms us we tend to suppress the emotions it evokes and return to 'cope' mode as quickly as possible. Having successfully supressed it we tend to leave it there and just carry on with our lives, yet the unexpressed and unacknowledged emotion remains frozen in time and can have a profound and lasting effect on our health. When we close of to our feelings we close off to our hearts and this makes us feel separate, unsupported and fearful leading to irrational fears, judgements and inner conflict and to physical and mental dis-ease.

Where this suppression occurs in early childhood there may be no conscious memory of it yet its effects can be particularly debilitating.

The memory retake meditation can be used on people of any age from about 7 upwards. It gently accesses the memory and the associated emotions and then it allows the sufferer to put the event into a healthier perspective and realise that they need no longer fear it. They are then able to open to their hearts and feel a profound sense of peace, safety and happiness. The technique is particularly useful after trauma and, along with other techniques, for people who have been bullied or abused.



The Life Visioning Process

Having cleared away pain, fear, saboteurs and conflicts using other heartful practices the thinking mind often needs some convincing that things have happened subconsciously and that the change is permanent. The life visioning process allows us to physically experience how different the future will be now we have cleared the dis-ease and we are in touch with our hearts.

The process is useful when we want to set an intention for the future and then work towards it.

This will be a joyous and affirming workshop which will support us all as we move closer towards living a life that is truly congruent with our deepest values.

Accreditation, CPD, ethics and safety in practice

This workshop will look at you as a practitioner. What are your skills and experience, what do you offer clients, which areas could you develop further and how will you support yourself in practice so your presence in grace can inspire your clients.

On a more practical level we will be looking at the accreditation process, ethics, safety and the law.









2.The discussion groups – 90 minute structured sessions

Heartful boundaries: looking at our ego response in sessions and how we honour and support ourselves and others in the group. Introducing the Four Agreements.

Heartful being: how do we live with integrity in our social lives and in our personal relationships. Introducing Ho oponopono

Heartful practice: how do we work with integrity and bring integrity to our work. Introducing the Optimal Healing Technique

Heartful networking: effective communication and relationship building

Heartful marketing: attracting clients

Heartful charging: honouring what we offer and bringing integrity to our fee structure and contracting

Heartful involvement with Absolute: what level of involvement do we want with Absolute after accreditation

Heartful CPD: what will support us and develop us heartful practitioners in the future?

3. One to one supervision

These are currently with Clare and other supervisors will be offering this support in the near future.

4. Peer group supervision

These will be groups of 3 to 5 people who are at a similar stage of their progress through the accreditation programme. They will be structured triad sessions where each person has the opportunity to practice the role of client, practitioner and observer.  The chief purpose of the sessions is to deepen your experience with the techniques but as everyone has a chance to be a client there will be an opportunity to bring an issue to work on. Part of the learning is to keep the issue within the time boundary to be fair to all. As a rule the sessions will be held in one of the group’s home or clinic, perhaps in rotation.

5.Telephone support

Clare and other Absolute specialists  will be available for support over practice and personal development issues throughout the programme.

6. Bi-monthly networking with Absolute Specialists and others interested in conscious practice

There will be time to network and socialise at all Absolute events: we are a team and offer friendship and support to each other. Please meet outside of these events as well and get to know everybody.

This is valuable in itself and helps build a supportive network of like-minded friends. It is also a way to get to know your fellow associates and to understand what they offer so you can refer to your contacts with confidence.



7. Referral reward scheme

If you secure work for another absolute specialist you will be rewarded with a percentage f their fee. If you bring a guest along to a workshop you will receive a £10 reward. Further details on charging and rewards will be discussed with you if you decide to practice as an Absolute specialist.

8. Manual

As the year unfolds you eill receive sections of a manual so by the end of the year you have a written reference  for all the processes.

9. Accreditation

Accreditation will be granted upon receipt of a written reflective piece completed once you feel confident in using the techniques with clients in an appropriate and creative way. The piece will include examples of how you have applied the techniques in practice and a critical appraisal of the results achieved and how you might have improved on the process. The piece will also consider your own heartful journey thus far and your CPD needs and plans for the following year. You will be offered an annual review with an Absolute Supervisor where you can reflect on your CPD in the previous year and on your needs for the following year.

The Director of Absolute Specialists reserves the right to withhold accreditation until you have  undertaken further personal development work to address any areas where this is deemed necessary. You have the right to appeal.

All Absolute Specialists – associates and accredited practitioners- must hold appropriate public liability insurance and agree to abide by the Absolute Specialists code of ethics and conduct.

10. Presence on the website and use of brand

As an absolute specialist you will be entitled to a page on the website and you can use the Absolute brand on your promotional material.

Sunday, 26 February 2012

What does a divorce coach do?


What does a divorce coach do?

The divorce coach works with family lawyers, keeping clients clear about their long term priorities and ensuring that they get the best possible agreement for themselves and their families.
The first session with the coach allows the client to talk about their situation in depth, exploring all the mix of practical considerations and emotions that are involved. This time can help the client to get some perspective on events and begin to clarify what matters most to them and how to go about achieving the best outcome from the divorce.
It may become clear that their emotions are clouding judgement and preventing the client from focussing on the priorities both for themselves, their children and often the other people who are caught up in the divorce, such as parents and close friends.
Family and friends are often keen to offer advice and judgement and express their own concerns and this may make it difficult for the client to be clear about their own feelings and to remain focussed on what matters most to them in the long term.  The coach does not bring his or her own agenda in to the meeting but listens and, when needed, offers timely questions so providing an opportunity for the client to reflect and gain clarity.
You may recognise your pattern, or that of your ex-partner, in one (or more) of the scenarios below:
Guilt
It is not uncommon for a client to be very concerned for the welfare of their ex- partner and be keen to cause as little pain as possible to them during the divorce process.  They may feel that the breakdown of the marriage is their fault and this can make it difficult for them to think clearly about what is fair and to ask for what they will need out of the settlement.
The divorce coach will help the client to recognise that their remorse, their grief or their lack of self-worth is clouding their judgement. Once this is recognised the client can gain a more objective view of the situation and be able to consider a solution that is fair to all parties and this will allow them to reach a settlement that they will be happy with in the longer term.
Anger
Often a client feels hurt, resentment or anger towards their ex-partner, perhaps because they feel betrayed, let down or abandoned. Such emotion, although it may be valid, makes it difficult to think beyond the desire to have ex-partner fully understand the pain that they have caused or simply beyond the desire for revenge. The coach can help the client get passed their emotion and see things from a more objective perspective.
Fear
The prospect of picking up the pieces and coping alone can be overwhelming at times -  you may have to juggle providing stability for the children, managing finances and finding somewhere to live at the same time as losing the loyalty of some friends. The list may be long and your fearful thoughts can drive you to distraction affecting your sleep, your energy and it seems even you sanity at times. Your coach can give you coping strategies, help you to unpick the useful thoughts from the ones that are unhelpful and often not even true. Once your thoughts are in order he or she may be able to offer guidance or recommend a money coach or a life coach to support you until you are back on your feet.
Numbness
 Sometimes feelings become completely shut off and we the client may feel as if they are living in a dream or like a robot. This is a protective measure in the short term that prevents you from suffering overwhelm but it is not a good long term strategy if you want to take control of the course of events!  Your coach will help you deal with the reality of the situation at your own pace so that you can get your feet back on the ground. Once this is achieved you can begin to make compassionate and sound decisions about your family and your future.

Often a brief intervention from a coach is sufficient to support you through your divorce and beyond. Occasionally it will be clear to the client that some extra time is needed and this can be arranged through your divorce coach. www.absolute-specialists.co.uk

Monday, 23 January 2012

feedback from workshops

My feedback from workshops has been scored at  4.8 /5 - an average of over 70 attendees.
Here is an example of some specific feedback:

Hazel was most struck by the willingness of people who had not previously been to a workshop to participate and their recognition that this is a powerful tool. She said: 'It was good for me as a practitioner to practice this techniqiue on someone I had not met before today.
Clare held the space very confidently and calmly and at times challenged people so that the structure and essence of the approach was not diluted. I learned a lot from watchig the others practice too.'

Emma found the workshop to offer her a 'nice' intimate group' she felt the pain releaser techniique clicked with her and she can start to apply it in practice.

Another delegate find the pain release technique simple and effective and has been using it with her clients with great success.

Another delegate was struck by the simplicity of the process and great delivery of the workshop.

And another, again struck by the simplicity and effectiveness of the technique arrived with a tension headache and left feeling peaceful and excited!
www.absolute-specialists.co.uk



Wednesday, 11 January 2012

divorcing amicably and for a fixed fee

Introducing collaborative law:
the amicable way to divorce
.

Absolute specialists are working closely with lawyers who support thier clients to part amicably, putting their children's interests first.

It is now possible to divorce without going to court but by sitting round a table and discussing how best to do it. This is a no-fight way to separate that allows everyone's needs to be considered.
We at Absolute are supporting this process whole-heartedly as it minimises the pain caused and maximises the likelyhood that the parting couple are able to remain on reasonable terms and move forward knowing that they did things in the best way possible.

A new website - www.dovetaildivorce.com contains a cost calculator that allows you to cost out the divorce. The fee includes the input from an IFA, who will advise on the options for working out the financial arrangements and a divorce coach who will ensure that the parting couple ar emotionally prepared for the process. This specialist support keeps the costs down by allowing the lawyers to focus on the legal apsects of the divorce.

If you need to involve a lawyer in the divorce this is probably the cheapest and best way of doing it.

So if you are considering divorce then have a look at the site. And please pass this on to anyone you know who might benefit.



http://www.dovetaildivorce.com



Sunday, 8 January 2012

Success with a young musician with stage fright


Hi Clare. Sorry i haven't replied sooner. I did perform in the talent show two times on the last day. Felt sick and used [the technique you taught me]. Stayed on to play two songs both times, wanted to get off after the first but it was great. Thanks I don't know how it would have gone without your help. :) www.absolute-specialists.co.uk


Friday, 9 December 2011

Feedback from a client fearing another bout of depression after a bereavement


All is good with me,  I have managed to make time 2 to 3 times a week to do the daily exercises you showed me.
Ive had a recent situation which would have thrown me into a bit of turmoil a few months back, but after  your helpful sessions and what I have learned I ahve been able to take each day one at a time and bring myself back into the moment when I feel my thoughts getting ahead of me.

I do feel totally back on track - and better than I've felt for a long time, thanks to your help. KC

Thursday, 10 November 2011

Feedback from Emma Pearmaine, Family Lawyer, Simpson Millar

Clare has helped a number of my clients to cope with the arduous and emotional stress of family separation. This help has been invaluable for the clients because they have been helped to make sense of their emotions and cope with their situations. It has also been invaluable for me because it has helped my clients to best assess the advice I give and make sensible decisions. It has also saved the clients a considerable amount of money, because it is not cost effective to use a lawyer as a counsellor - and we do not have the necessary counselling skills in any event!
I think Clare does a fantastic and professional job. The clients all relate to her well, irrespective of their problems or background. Following a session with Clare they come away positive and calm and ready to deal with the next step in the case. Clare is also very good at liasing with me, to ensure we are both helping the client in a consistent way. I would not hesitate to recommend her.www.absolute-specialists.co.uk